10 Relationship Tips That Couples Often Forget

    Once a couple of people have settled into a relationship, things can fall into a bit of a rut. Routines form, the attentiveness that was present at the beginning of the courtship might be replaced by content complacency, and ultimately tensions arise. These simple tips may seem like common sense, but you may be surprised at how often people forget about their importance.

Communication is Vital

Very few of us are able to read one another’s minds, so it’s important to express things that weigh on us, whether they’re positive or negative. Little behaviors that bother us can become more irksome over time, so it’s good to address them early, before the irritation accumulates to the point of anger. Similarly, miscommunications can lead to some pretty ugly arguments, so if you’re uncertain about something, try to discuss it calmly so you can sort things out: you may have misheard or misread something your partner said/did and taken it totally out of context, so clarify before freaking out about anything. Even though we may feel that we know our partners well after being with them for several years, remember that we all grow and change over time, and methods of communication must change along with us as needed.

Never Take Each Other for Granted

Be aware of every wonderful thing that your partner does for you, and express your gratitude whenever possible. This might be as simple as thanking them for doing the dishes after you’ve eaten dinner, or telling them how much it means to you that they make your coffee/tea exactly the way you like it. They’ll feel appreciated for the love and kindness they show you, and will express their appreciation to you in turn, so no one ever feels like their actions aren’t being acknowledged.

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Respect Each Other’s Alone Time

Togetherness is important, but just as important (if not more so) is the ability to spend time alone. Too much time spent together can make you irritable, especially if you feel like your personal space is always being invaded. Time alone is necessary for personal reflection, growth, meditation, or even just quiet contemplation. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and you’ll appreciate your partner a lot more after having some space away from them. If you live together, it might be a good idea to have personal spaces that you can retreat to: either individual offices, or a garage workshop for one person and an attic library for another, etc.

Don’t “Let Yourself Go”

It’s inevitable that once certain comfort levels have been reached and closeness wins out over early awkwardness, some behavioral patterns will change. You might not spend an hour prepping before dinner to make sure that your hair is perfect, or your partner might wear the same pants for two days in a row without worrying about what you might think of their outfit. That’s totally normal, and really quite hilarious. That said, closer comfort levels don’t mean that you should neglect your personal hygiene, or let your living space fall into complete ruin. You know they’re not going to judge you if you leave pizza boxes all over the floor, but that doesn’t mean that you should. Try to keep things tidy and your appearance a step or two above “slovenly,” and your partner will undoubtedly feel that they’re worth making an effort for.

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Share Some Hobbies, and Have Solo Pursuits as Well

You might not share your partner’s love of MMORPGs, and they may not be interested in your love of foreign films, and you know what? That’s absolutely okay. While it’s great to pursue some hobbies and interests together, it’s important to have your own social groups and interests as well. Take cooking classes or swing dance lessons together, hook up with friends to go to wine tasting nights, but then split off for your individual pursuits: you’ll have fun things to talk about when you meet up afterwards.

Admit When You’re Wrong (or When They’re Right)

This may be difficult for some people to do, but it really is important. If you discover that you’ve been wrong about an issue/bit of information/whatnot, own up to it: you’ll gain your partner’s appreciation and respect if you do, and if you don’t, you’re just proving yourself to be an immature, pouty jerk. Additionally, if you’ve been discussing something and your partner turns out to be in the right, acknowledge that fact: they may have been filled with self-doubt, and acknowledging their awareness or knowledge may boost their self-esteem exponentially.

Have Faith In Your Partner

Having trust and faith in another person can be difficult, especially if you’ve been hurt by others in the past. If you’ve been cheated on or otherwise betrayed by another partner, you might worry that the same thing will happen in your current relationship, and this may cause you to imagine things or accuse your partner without just cause. If you find that your own insecurities are poisoning your partnership, talk it out with them and consider seeking therapy: they’re not the person who hurt you, so please don’t assume that just because one person treated you badly, everyone else will too.

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Leave the Past In the Past

If you work through a hardship together and come to a positive resolution, move past it and use the experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t refer back to it during arguments, don’t bring it up as a means of guilt-tripping your partner, and try not to assume that just because something happened once, that it’ll happen again. What’s passed is past, and rehashing old ugliness will just poison future happiness. Let it go.

Mutual Goals are Important

It’s great to have a goal or a project that you’re both working on together, as that can affect many aspects of your life outside of your actual relationship. You could be working on an art piece, saving up for a trip, building a cottage, or even working on a garden. Determine your strengths for the project so you’re working in harmony, and build something amazing that you can be proud of having achieved as a team.

Be Honest

Some people lie to their partners for years out of fear of hurting or offending them, but that can lead to a whole lot of ugliness on all sides. The one being lied to will know that something is wrong, and the one lying may feel more and more frustration about holding back and the relationship may end up suffering badly as a result. This honesty doesn’t have to deal with outright lies, but rather personal interests or preferences that may have changed over the years. Alternately, there could be some serious issues that really should be dealt with, but are internalized out of fear of hurting the other person. Ultimately, honesty really is the best policy, and a strong couple will be able to work through just about anything together.

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Young University Lady Ties Towel to Lectures

A young lady from botswana has currently gone viral after she wore only a towel to her university this is according to twitter user Oaitse‏
@Oaitse42 who broke the news;
University of Botswana student wore a towel to school  (Dope) Yes or no?

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Fighting fair

Relationships are never perfect, because no two people are perfect. Disagreements and even full-fledged arguments will always ensue due to the friction between personalities, upbringing and personal convictions. This is not necessarily a bad thing.

When we say that couples should learn to fight productively with each other, I don’t mean exchanging physical blows. That is never permissible for any gender. If your partner is abusive in this way, please walk away.

However, disagreements can be tools for the growth of the relationship and for learning each other’s triggers and boundaries. The problem is that some couples don’t know how to fight fair and are stuck in a cycle of toxic, verbally abusive episodes. There is a way to fight with your partner while not breaking their spirit.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you chose this person. You love them. Keep this at the forefront of your mind as you table your concerns. Do not put them down or use degrading language at them in your frustration. Talk about your own feelings and wants and don’t try to tell them theirs.

Another thing couples do wrong is blaming. “This is how you always...” or “last time, you also...” Keep the past in the past and deal with what is in front of you. Pointing fingers will only make your partner more defensive and less able to hear your point, even though it might actually be a good one.

How you put your point across also matters. Some of us grew up in “yelling” houses, where we shout to communicate and this seems normal. Your partner may have grown up in a quiet house and so yelling sounds confrontational and angry to him. You might just be expressing your feelings, not even angry, but he won’t understand it like that. This is why you need to communicate at your partner’s level, and avoid shouting.

It might feel good at the time to threaten your partner with a break up or a divorce, but please do not do it. It is callous and shows that you have no respect for your union. Do not threaten them with anything you know they hold dear. Don’t let things get physical either, breaking things or throwing things. Keep things civil. You will want to preserve your relationship after the fight.

There are no winners or losers in a fight between lovers. That should never be the aim. The aim should be to understand each other better and grow in your trust, respect and love.

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Relationships are like trees

A very distinct feature of trees is that they do not start out as trees. Instead, they are seeds first before they mature into mighty trees, with huge roots reaching deep into the soil, shoots that rise regal into the sky, fruit-bearing branches whose leaves offer shade. 

Likewise, the full picture of what a relationship will become once it matures into marriage is often a mystery. Well, of course, if you plan properly and goal-oriented, you would have a very good idea of what your family will look like, coupled with the personality of the person you are dating. Yet, that is all you will have- a picture of what it will look like. 

No matter how much time you spend together, how real you both are with each or how well you think you know your partner, you will never know the person as well as you would know the person after marriage. All a relationship gives you are glimpses into who the person really is. Thus, it is only if you are smart, sensitive or observant enough that you would know how to interpret what those glimpses truly mean and how they will affect your relationship in years to come.

The reality is that as time goes on, traits in people mature, mostly as a result of time and life. It is inevitable. As one experiences more and more things and is more exposed to various circumstances, certain traits are being awoken. These traits may mature as bad habits or attitudes our partners may find annoying. 

Therefore, it is not that the person really changed. Life simply happened. Does this now mean dating is pointless? Nope. It is very important because you need those glimpses you can only get from dating to decide who is worth settling down with.

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Ladies and challenges of relationship series one (1)

The long awaited article is now here...

There is a special air blowing around, in this our contemporary world (most especially campus), the air is so strong that any where you get to, you either feel it or see it and this is the wind of RELATIONSHIP.

    At times, I begin to wonder if being in relationship is the utmost thing in life, but as time goes on I realized that there is more to life than being desperate to be engaged, being in relationship is not a sin, but majority of our ladies go into relationship with wrong motives, and I've noticed that most relationship on campus are as a result of pressure, desperate, infatuation, feelings, match making and son on, which is a very wrong foundation to build a relationship on, if the foundation is bad, I wonder what the righteous swill do.

    When you are going into a relationship as a lady, you need to ask yourself the question WHY? There so many reasons why some ladies go into relationship, it maybe loneliness, depression, unhappiness, desperacy and so on, but always remember that when ever you are in a relationship, you are either on your way to failure of to success. If you want to play game with your future, go into relationship with a wrong motives, you will face the consequences later in life.

LADIES WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED FOR RELATIONSHIP

1. Desperate Ladies: These are ladies that are consumed about being engaged to just any body. This is the attitude which of most ladies that think age is no longer on their side.

If you are desperate, you may fall into the wrong hand and it will surely tell in your future. Making engagement your ultimate goal in life leads to lost of integrity and loss of focus. Be anxious for nothing with prayer and supplication with thanksgiving;place everything before God and he will surely see you through.

2. Ladies with Low Self Esteem: Those are people who do not know their worth, they have inferiority complex, they don not see anything good in themself, they feel every body hates them, so they withdraw themselves.

3. DepressedAnd Lonely Ladies: Most ladies are in one relationship or the other all because they want to solve the problem of loneliness and depression. They think being engage is the solution, but at the end they find out that their problem grow worse. The fact is that if you are not happy while you are still single relationship can't make you happy, it has the potential of compounding your problem is not singleness but loneliness, which you have to work on, relate with people around, and make yourself happy always. If you go into relationship all because you are unhappy or lonely, you bring loneliness and depression into the life of other partner, because it is what you have that you give.

NOTE: Relationship is not meant for babes, but for matured minds. It is not for those that don’t have anything to give because relationship is about give and take. It involves loving your partner, caring for him and a joint effort toward fulfilling destiny.

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10 Secret to Make Your Relationship Last

    Love that lasts is the result of partners embedding themselves in each other’s brains in a positive way. Memory circuits and pleasure get all wound up together so that the other person becomes integral to the very structure of your brain, and you become part of the structure of his.

Here are some steps toward making your love last:

1. Take your partner's breath away. Do something amazingly thoughtful and out of the ordinary and try to incorporate an element of surprise to it: a loving note tucked into a pocket. A special dinner on an otherwise ordinary night. A playlist made up with his favorite songs. These thoughtful acts will embed you in his memory.

2. Do something special on a regular basis. Call him every day just to touch base for a few minutes. Make his favorite meal once a week. Once he begins to expect these things, you will always be close to his awareness.

3. Engage in lots of eye gazing. New couples seem to do this naturally, but don’t drop this strong bonding behavior just because the relationship has progressed. This is one way to keep the romance alive and is especially powerful when making love.

4. Learn what pleases your partner sexually. Make it clear that his pleasure is your pleasure, and you want to discover everything about what turns him on. He’ll be happy to have you experiment with him.

5. Teach your partner what you like. Likewise, making you happy will make him feel good. And research shows that the sexual pleasure of one partner increases the pleasure of the other partner.

6. Boost lasting love with sexual novelty. When things get humdrum and routine, there is not going to be as much of a hormonal/neurotransmitter reaction, and arousal is lessened. While you don't have to break out the whips and chains, a little novelty can increase anticipation, which means that more hormones are secreted. The result? Hotter, more thrilling sex for both of you.

7. Do something edgy. If you get your partner’s heart rate up, he may associate the feeling of excitement with you and he may develop more powerful feelings for you. Going on a roller-coaster ride, taking a balloon trip, shooting the rapids—anything with a touch of danger to it—can make him fall more deeply in love with you.

8. Do something great for someone your partner loves. If you show kindness and love for someone he loves, you will earn major points. When you enter a relationship, you also enter a relationship with all his family and friends. Show him that the people who are important to him are important to you.

9. Summarize and immortalize loving moments. Don’t be afraid to give voice to your love. Tell him how you feel. Write a loving note or poem. Lovers have been doing this from the beginning of time because it works.

10. Boost the chemicals of love. There are many brain chemicals that go into the feeling of love and attachment. Oxytocin is known as the bonding, trust, and cuddle hormone. Oxytocin is enhanced by watching romantic movies together, holding hands, cuddling, and long, loving eye contact. Women usually have more oxytocin than men, but according to one study, a man’s level of oxytocin goes up 500 percent after making love. Being too busy to make love pushes couples apart.

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Things You Must Know Before You Date a Funny Guy

1. We're guaranteed to make your day better, like a human version of pizza. Had a crappy day at work? Get in a fight with your best friend? You know that if you call us up to hang out, we'll get you laughing.

2. Funny guys are like garlic: bland stuff suddenly gets way better. We'll make even boring stuff awesome. Do you have to go help your brother move out of his dorm? Bring us along. Awkward family wedding? Check and see if you get a plus-one. 

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3. We hate being called "funny guys." On a personal note, I hate writing this and even self-identifying as being funny. If people introduce us as funny or ask us to tell a joke on the spot, we'll retreat into our (probably) metaphorical shells.

4. Yes, we will make jokes during serious talks. Bear with us and don't get mad. Sometimes we can't resist making a so-bad-it's-really-bad-and-almost-good pun or throwing out an actually good one-liner. These moments might come during a serious talk about where our relationship is headed. Brace yourself.

5. But that doesn't mean we can't be serious. Half the time we're making jokes, we're still taking things seriously. But we're not about to start screaming, "HEY, GANG! WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH DEATH, HUH? WHERE DO WE GO WHEN WE DIE? WHAT'S THE BIG IDEA?" at your great aunt's funeral like some terrible stand-up. We are not insane. We still understand societal norms.

6. Just because we can crack some jokes doesn't mean we secretly want to break into comedy. Most of us are content with just making people laugh. Don't keep pushing us to take an improv class unless we bring it up. And if we do, get ready for long, weird hours and lots of questions about whether or not a particular joke is funny as we quadruple-guess ourselves. 

7. Get ready for us to be really elitist about some of your favorite TV shows. Fuck The Big Bang Theory. Let's move on.

8. THERE'S PAIN BEHIND THESE EYES. All right, let's dial it down a bit, but just because we're making jokes doesn't mean we're constantly happy-go-lucky. If anything, it's a defense mechanism. Even if we're laughing, just check in with us sometimes.

9. We can't always be "on" with you. While our friends typically get our whole funny shtick 24/7, you're not always going to get that with us. Sometimes we need to be boring and unfunny. 

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10. We are your secret weapon at office dinner parties. We'll charm the hell out of anyone you need us to. Your boss? You coworkers? That weird guy you can't quite figure out? We're all best friends now. We are like locksmiths but with people.

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14 Little Moments That Make You Feel Single

You've accepted the fact that you are single. Nay, you've embraced it! You love living the single life and all the bonuses that come with it (You don't have to share the bed! You can keep your apartment at whatever temperature you want!). However, certain things in life exist solely to remind you of your relationship status. And each one of these instances has left you saying to yourself, "I am single."

1. Getting invited to a wedding and being graciously given a plus-one. But instead, you're like, "Can I bring a bottle of sauvignon blanc as my plus-one?" You don't mind going to weddings alone, really, you don't. But having to send the RSVP card back to the bride with a big fat X over the box for "will be enjoying my tenderloin alone and will also probably die alone while we're at it" gets more painful and real each time.

2. Bouquet tosses. While we're on the topic of weddings, why must every wedding do the bouquet toss to the "Single Ladies" song? You used to love that song but now as soon as it comes on, the dance floor parts like the Red Sea and everybody turns and stares at you, the lone single lady who will probably still not catch the bouquet.

3. When your best friend gets a boyfriend. NNNOOOOOOOOooOOoOOooo! R.I.P., Friday night wing woman, Saturday afternoon brunch buddy, and happy hour homie. T'was real while it lasted.

4. Your kitchen pantry. It's basically a leaning tower of Easy Mac boxes and approximately nine bottles of wine you've stocked up on. And your fridge is full of leftover takeout food that you hold on to so your kitchen appliances don't look completely empty and barren, like your love life.

5. Recipes that yield two servings. You decide to actually cook for once, but every recipe makes enough food for you and the boyfriend you don't have. Why, god, why? Is it that hard to make recipes with measurements for single people so you don't have to be further single-shamed by your penne pasta? The only upside to this is having dinner ready for the rest of the week. Let's be real, you didn't have plans anyway.

6. When even what's-her-name on Facebook gets engaged before you. A new day, a new Facebook notification that everyone except you is happily engaged. Or already married. Or on kid no. 5.

7. Pretty much every holiday. Valentine's Day sucks for obvious reasons, and Thanksgiving and Christmas/Hanukkah are super fun when you have no one to bring home with you, so your parents make you sleep in the creepy room with the kid-size twin bed to make space for aaall the other happy couples. You're happy for everyone! Really! That bed is just the worst.

8. Having to list an emergency contact on forms. Let's see, there's that guy you met on Bumble who you're kind of texting, or your best friend who is now married and pregnant. Or maybe you should jot down your mom's name for the 50th time. All you really want is to get your eyebrows waxed in peace, dammit.

9. Your mom. She loves to pry and loves reminding you how bad she wants grandkids even more. She says things like, "I'm not gonna live forever, you know," and, "When I was your age, I was married with two kids!" If ever you're feeling good about where you are in the single life, don't go visit your parents.

10. Family vacations. Your siblings all bring their significant others, but you are flying solo (literally) in a middle seat between a baby who won't stop crying and an old man who won't stop snoring. Your parents always encourage you to bring a friend but you respectfully decline because you don't need their pity.

11. When you find a cockroach or something in your apartment. The only person who can deal with it is you. Same goes for clogged drains and broken toilets. You're on your own.

12. Fall. With all the hayrides, apple picking, and new TV show line-ups, fall (aka cuddle season) is a great time for couples. But that doesn't mean you'll be sitting around and sulking. You'll be spending that time prepping your badass Harley Quinn Halloween costume so you can put all the couples' costumes to shame.

13. Clothes that are hard to put on by yourself. Dresses with hard-to-reach back zippers. Those stupid hook and eye clasps. Super-tight body-con dresses. Theses things are too hard to put on/take off by yourself, so you give up and wear something else instead.

14. Bad dates. You finally decide to go out with someone, only to realize you'd be much happier cuddled up alone on your couch with your mermaid blanket watching The Bachelor with a glass of rosé and a giant tub of hummus than listen to him talk about himself any longer. Being single is better if that's the alternative.

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Signs that your relationship is a disaster waiting to happen

If any of the scenarios listed here is your reality, your relationship is in real jeopardy.

Of course, relationships don't just end like that.

An accumulation of mistakes, unchecked issues and unresolved problems puts a strain on them so much that they often get irreparably damaged.

You may paper over the cracks for as long as you can, but you need to wake up and smell the coffee; when the time comes for that relationship to come crashing down, your efforts won't be enough to stop it from tumbling down.

Partners often remain in relationships - actually they remain in the shell of the relationship - which have lost essence for a long time. Relationships that are just imminent breakups waiting to happen.

play Imminent breakup stares you in the face if you no longer make efforts in your relationship (Tonga GH)

Uwanma Odefa on another episode of her vlog, "Love, Life, and Everything in Between," says there are five significant features of such relationships, and these are listed below:

1. One-sided efforts

If you ever find yourself in a relationship which has become nothing but a personal struggle to keep the fire burning, you might want to stop wasting that effort after some time.

Your love won't really be enough to power the relationship for long as relationships are two-way roads. You come with effort from your end, your partner stretches himself from his end and you both meet halfway.

play Meeting each other half way is the standard for successful partners. Without that, your happinees is uncertain (Bella Naija)

When only one partner keeps stretching, it won't be long before they snap... and they'll likely snap out of the relationship.

2. Increasing fights

The number of lovers' fights increases badly. The negative energy in the relationship just keeps going all the way up  till it reaches the most toxic levels.

You both love each other, no doubt, but with time even that fades out because your moments of conflict outlasts your moments of happiness.

I'm sorry to inform you that that relationship is gone, you just don't know yet.

There's only so much negative, hurtful fights a relationship can survive.

play Uwanma Odefa explains why your relationship could be over before you actually face the reality (Youtube)

3. You're happy alone

If the days you spend away from your babe or guy feel better than the days you spend with them, that's not a good thing.

Of course, you can't possibly spend every moment, every day with the love of your life but one of the factors that carries you through those moments is the thought of seeing or speaking with them later.

So if reverse is the case with you, then you know there's fire on the mountain.

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No one asks me out because they think I have a boyfriend

They just assume because of my physical attributes I would have a boyfriend and they stay away.

Hello,
   Mine isn't necessarily about a current relationship because I am not in one.
Since I came back to Nigeria I feel everything has gone badly for me especially on this matter. I don't even have a single admirer let alone someone asking me out.
And I am not ugly, I've got a great personality and a great body people compliment everyday and I’ve also got a beautiful face.
I'm not sure maybe when they see me they just assume because of my physical attributes I would have a boyfriend or something and they stay away. I'm 24 by the way, so it's not like I'm too young to have a boyfriend.

The main reason I decided to write to you guys is about this pending issue I have.
Please is there anything as a female having too much hormones because I don't get it, I cry a lot even when nothing major has happened.
I know during that time of the month or ovulation, hormones tend to work you up but mine is getting annoying.
Since my secondary school days it's almost like I've always carried this feeling of sadness about.
I'm a very jovial person but once I'm by myself in my room I just tend to have crazy thoughts and I'm not sure if it's a normal thing attributable to hormones or just me.
____________________________
Dear reader,
About being single, I think you might be mistaken about being admired. Being pretty as you described surely makes you the subject of many admiring eyes. The problem I suspect is that most of these people are just not confident or sure enough to come out with their admiration and that is not your fault.
   Be patient with yourself and keep being a great person with amazing attitude and a confident man will locate you.
Go out, meet people, smile, be polite and courteous, and flirt lightly occasionally if you are comfortable doing so.
Just a little more patience is all it takes. You'll be absolutely fine.
About the crazy thoughts and tearful moments, have you seen a medical expert about this yet? I think you absolutely should.
They're in a better position to tell you what's up and offer expert opinion and advice on the matter.
_________________

Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?
Do you have burning questions that you would love to get answers to?
Just comment your questions below and you will recieve a timely replie or you send us a mail containing your question and location to audiencegistcontact@gmail.com,  and I'll provide the most honest answers to them anonymously.
So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it?
A problem shared is a problem half-solved!

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5 ways to avoid the temptation to cheat in relationship

Cheating has always been, still is, and forever will be a bad thing. It’s as plain and simple as that.

Understandably, the decision to stay faithful to your partner, or to your marriage vows will take a lot of energy, strong will and restraint, but hey, you chose this, didn’t you?

 

  

The least that is expected of you is to have the balls [and I’m not referring to only men here] to stay true to that person you decided to enter into a relationship with.

When you are faced with temptations, [believe me, you will] these are some of the things that will help you out.

1. Be determined

Whatever will happen will first happen in your mind, so you need to decide to never entertain the thought of ever cheating on your spouse.

The thought will cross your mind, but you can't allow it have a firm grip in there.

You should choose to hold your end of the bargain, regardless of what your spouse does or does not do.

Cheating only ends in pain for both the cheater and the cheated (Freakily)

Of course, I have to repeat here that being faithful is not an easy thing to do as you’ll be tempted a lot and your determination alone might not be enough, which is why you need the other.

2. Limit opportunity

If you never get in a situation to cheat on your partner, you’ll most likely not.

Hence, it’ll do you a world of good to limit or totally cut off ties with everyone who might be too tempting to ignore.

  Don't think you can handle it alone. You might need to talk to someone (Thinkyouknow)

Stay away from old flames and people with whom you’ve had sexual relationships in the past.

3. Get your spouse involved

Becoming married or getting into a relationship does not mean that you have to leave every other person you were once close to.

However, to avoid the temptation of falling for someone else, or them falling for you, you need to always find a way to remind them [and yourself] that you are now committed to someone else who deserves your loyalty.

play What to do when you're not really drawn to him
(Shutterstock)

Wear your wedding ring, find a way to bring up your spouse’s name in conversations with them.

That, plus your strong determination to be faithful should be enough to ward off any chance of becoming tempted to cheat.

4. Keep your emotional issues for your partner only

When your partner offends you, or does something wrong, and refuses to see reason with you, sharing it and asking for someone else’s opinion might seem like the easiest thing to do. [Especially someone of the opposite sex]

You say “I just needed someone to talk to and he or she was there.”

play Never put yourself in a situation where you end up trapped (Carolynedgar)

Well done. Continue.

You should know that sharing sensitive information about each other is how many emotional bonds begin.

Soon a shoulder to cry on might soon become a ‘rod’ to ride on.

Do not get too close. Do not build that emotional connection. You’ll not be able to fight that temptation to cheat.

5. Seek assistance

If you feel tempted to spark up a relationship with someone else, tell someone.

Just tell someone.

Of course the best people that people often find it easy to talk to in these instances are their spiritual heads, and it’s just fine.

Talk to your religious head if that’s who you can fearlessly confide in.

  No need bottling in your struggles when you could get help by confiding in someone. (News24extra)

In the instance where you do not have any, or you feel they cannot be completely trusted, then you might want to meet with professional advisers/ counsellors/ therapists.

Get out, get help! [It might not be a bad idea to go see the professional with your spouse if you are married].

All in all, staying faithful and true to any exclusive relationship requires so much work, and you should be ready to do what is needed.

If not, why on God’s green earth are you in the relationship?

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Mistakes Nigerian Men Make In Bed That Irritate Women

This list is a summary of the annoying habits and acts most guys display in the sheets.See the list of mistakes that might irritate your woman and turn her off.

1. Insufficient pre-intimacy.

2. Being Silent and Emotionless.

3. Assuming She’s Satisfied.

4. Not Lasting Long Enough.

5. Body odour.

6. Bad breath.

7. Forcing her head with your hand during Bj sessions.

8. Forcefully pulling on her Tips.

9. Cleaning your semen with the sheets.

10. Dropping the condom on the floor.

11. Going straight to her vagina immediately.

Guys, the general rule is simply to be courteous and respectful to your woman

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Reasons Why Many Guys Insist On Getting Into Ladies' Pants In Relationships

         
1. Ladies Who Don't Allow Sex Often Misbehave
I know that most ladies will disagree with this point but there's an atom of truth in it. As a matter of fact, most ladies (not all though) who don't allow sex in relationships often misbehave because they know they have nothing to lose. Most of them might not even think twice b4 dumping you because they are not sexually attached to you

2. They Don't Want To Be Tagged Mugu
YES ! Many dudes seem to be very careful in dealing with ladies who always claims that sex is NOT a yardstick for LOVE yet these ladies will screw you, extort you & will never want you to get under their pants. These same ladies will go to their friends and tell them how MUGU you are.

3. Wrong Orientation
I grew up with an orientation and mentality of " NO DULL YOURSELF" when dealing with a lady who doesn't want SEX in a relationship because another dude somewhere might just be doing the work while you are playing the role of ROMEO.. Hahaha !!! Isn't that funny ? I'm pretty sure I'm NOT the only one with this orientation & mentality

4. To Boost Their Ego
MY OPINION on why guys want sex in relationships is to boost their EGO, or make them feel "PROUD, more so, they derive JOY in it"; thinking "oh, straph that girl! she was so nice.. blah blah" but dont take under the consideration on how the girl feels like sure

5. To Have Dominion & Control
Some dudes have the belief that sex will make them have total control and have dominion over a lady, therefore they don't joke with sex in a relationship because once a girl has sex she is considered "USED" but a guy can lie about his past and nobody can prove otherwise. It's
totally unfair but that is the reality of
today's society.

6. It Is My Duty & Entitlement
Hahaha !!! This also got me cracking. Some dudes who are in relationships don't have a reason why they should have sex with you. They only feel it is their DUTY and it's their ENTITLEMENT as a boyfriend. That's all grin

7. Emotional Attachment
Many dudes only want sex because they believe it will make a lady stay glued. #if I hear#

8. The experience Of Friends
They must have heard about their friends' experiences of how they loved and dated ladies who lied about being a virgin for almost 4 year & she they later caught sleeping with another dude with their two Unclad eyes. Many dudes are brainwashed by others experiences, therefore they don't wouldn't want to experience that

9. Sex Is Love
There's this saying amongst youth that sex is important in a relationship but NOT a necessity. However, many dudes wrongly interprete this saying and will always want sex so as to know how true a ladies is into them. However, some guys will tell you anything to get sex, even though they don't love. Some will promise to open a supermarket for you, some will promise you marriage, therefore if you really love them you would have sex with them.

10. Sex Urge (Konji)
All the aforementioned points still boil down to SEX URGE (Konji). The hormone testosterone is
very strong in MOST young guys that they don't even hide it. Some are able to curb their urge while some are crazy about it as if their lives depend on it. This is the major reasons why guy always want to have sex.

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- Word of Wisdom For The Girls. Episode 5

YOU  saw  him  in  a  facebook  group:


•U check his Profile picture.

•He Drives A Range Rover Sport 2016.
.He is handsome.

•He inboxed you.

•You reply, all excited. •You'll want 2 hook up.

•You set a date.

•You dress up that Legging With No
underwear.

•Smelling good.

•You put on a make up - fresh breath and new weave.

•He takes you 4 lunch @ Serena Hotel.

•He Takes you for - Drinks At Java.

•You two have a good time.

•He rubs your hand,

•Makes you laugh, •Gives you looks and smiles.

•You stupidly fall in love.

•It's like you've known him Forever.

•He takes you to his apartment.

•He makes you feel comfortable and
lays u on his bed.

•Kiss you passionately.

•You love his aggression, strength,
power and you give in.

•It feels good.

•You know it's wrong, but it feels good.

•You ask for protection, he says it's too late.

•You obey and don't disturb.

•He says he loves you and you don't
hesitate to say you love him too. He hits
it nice and slow

•After, he goes to the kitchen to get a glass of water.

•He helps you drink it, ooohh man.

•You feel special.

•"He must be the one" you think to
yourself.

•You get dressed. •He takes you to the taxi park.

•He kisses you on the cheeks and says

•"I had a great time,"

•Gives You cash.

•U smile and say, "See you tomorrow babe."

• He stays silent.

•Your taxi drives away,

•In the taxi u can't stop smiling.

•You get home and inbox him that you
got home safe.

•He is online, but doesn't reply. •It's unlike him, so you inbox him again.

•He doesn't respond.

•Minutes later you can't find him on ur
friend list.

•HE BLOCKED YOU.

•Days, weeks, months passes by.

•You start feeling sick, weak, loose
weight, act strange with sores in your
mouth.

•You go to the clinic.

•Get tested.

•Minutes later,
•Nurse walks in."I'm sorry. You're HIV
Positive and Pregnant!"


•".HOW ?"

•You don't understand.

•Reality hits you.

•You walk home. •Scared. •Confused.

•You go to the bus stop.

•You lay, hopeless, emotionless.

•You see death coming nearer.

•You look into the sky & mumble a
prayer.
That's the end of you.




Don't be that girl !
Live well. Stop Chasing
Material Things. Stop chasing SPONSORS!!

Be A Girl You Want Your Daughter To Be!!!



TO ALL THE LADIES. LIVE A LIFE
NOT A LIE.

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